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Understanding Why People Cheat


If you are cheating you may have your reasons for doing it, most people do. If you are being cheated on you may be wondering what you have done wrong or what has happened in the relationship to cause your spouse to cheat. There are some very common reasons that people cheat, and though these are not the only reasons to step outside of a marriage they are some of the most commonly named. These common reasons for cheating are often:

Many people say that they began cheating because their needs were not being met by their partner so they looked outside the marriage.

A lot of people cheat because they didn’t understand or respect the boundaries that were associated with their marriage. Many people who cheat have never been able to operate within boundaries in any aspect of their life.

Often people site cheating because they wanted some excitement in their life, which they found they can get through an affair.Quite a few people say that they cheat because the opportunity was presented to them and they couldn’t turn it down.

A lot of people cheat because they have low self esteem and having sex with another person is their way of seeking for approval.Sex is a big issue in a lot of relationships and a lot of cheaters site this as their main reason for cheating. Either there was not enough sex or not the kind of sex that the cheater wanted.

A lot of people site that they cheated because they wanted to feel wanted or special and their spouse was no longer doing this for them. Some people simply lack commitment to their relationship or their partner and so they cheat because they can.

There are a lot of different reasons that people cheat and generally they are not the same from one affair to another. Regardless of the reason, most people who cheat do it because they have problem or a perceived problem and they believe that going outside of the relationship is the way that they can solve this problem for themselves. This almost never works out like they hoped that it would and affairs almost always create a whole new group of problems.

If you have cheated or you have been cheated on you should know that why the affair has taken place really isn’t all that important. The reason is that even if someone cheats again they may not cheat for the same reason. If you want to repair your relationship after an affair you both have to be willing to work for it and you need to be committed to relationship first and foremost.

When you work on commitment you will find that neither person is as likely to cheat because there is a true loyalty to the relationship. Recovering from an affair is really difficult, so make sure that both of you want to be in on this recovery process, otherwise you are just wasting your time.

rodrigo rehn is a relationships expert, linux systems administrator, web programmer, php developer and ceo of faceromance personal ads for singles.

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