Emotional infidelity is one of the most deceptive anomalies in a marriage relationship, and since it depends on the emotional states of a person, it cannot be detected straightaway. This type of infidelity is subtle but damaging, secretive but toxic, and it slowly makes the relationship deteriorate over time.

It annoys and eats away at the other persons psyche, making distrust and paranoia spread. Like every other circumstance and relational issues in life, infidelity at the emotional level has a number of causes. Most of these causes are inconspicuous and trivial, but if one feeds and nurtures these causes, they will continue to sprout in the heart and will prove to be very hard to cut down.

Most of these causes take the form of unresolved grievances. These are the little, trivial issues that are borne with the spouses nitty-gritty differences. Each person will always be different and being in a long-term relationship means dealing with those differences working it out with them. Good luck to those who think they can change the other and to those who have started projects to transform the person into his/her image.

These small issues can include time management differences, ethical challenges, annoying habits, bizarre idiosyncrasies, and those little, personal things that get to in the partners nerves. Oftentimes these include bigger issues like financial management disagreements, or child-rearing philosophies.

The husband might like to handle the childrens discipline with far more harshness and equity than the wife, who opts to treat the childrens mistakes and flaws with more grace. Or it may include no-nonsense things like flirting or jealousy, which may have more dangerous implications than those mentioned above. At any rate, these grievances, if left untreated and unresolved, will fester at a partners heart and will be very big issues overtime.

Consequently, these grievances will so embitter the person to a big degree that he/she will tend to emotionally withdraw from other. The affected partner will begin thinking and entertaining an irrational idea that these problems are unsolvable, when in fact they have not been talking about it and communicating to each other their grievances. This toxic chain of events and circumstances provides the ideal climate for ones emotions to be carried away by a third party easily.

Emotional infidelity will grow out of this dissatisfaction with the partner, and the void that is unfilled by the other will sadly be satisfied with another intruder, in the form of a close officemate, an affectionate secretary, an understanding colleague, or anyone who the affected person thinks can satisfy that need.

Full-blown extramarital affairs are the consequence of this stage of infidelity, and emotional attachments are very, very hard to severe. One quick note of advice towards those who think they are already venturing into the pastures of infidelity at an emotional level is: always talk and communicate your grievances and shortcomings with your present partner. It is such a simple advice, but emotional infidelity can be resolved and eliminated simply by talking and being open with your spouse.

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