Welcome, visitor! [ Register | Loginrss

Online Dating-Making The First Date


One of the great things about using an online dating site is meeting many great singles from the comfort of your own home. Using either chat or email, you’re able to get an idea about a person and you can decide whether or not want to meet them.

The goal of online dating is not to meet people and chat online, but to meet face-to-face other quality singles that you would be interested in dating.

Exchanging emails and chatting helps us to determine the people we would like to eventually meet in person. It’s a great tool to weed through the many different profiles on a dating site to find the ones we think are a good match.

How long should you wait before taking the step of a face to face meeting?

I think that you should set up a face-to-face meeting as quickly as possible.

Each single moves at their own pace and you have to be cognizant of someone’s comfort levels. Make sure that in your exuberance to meet someone that you don’t push them out of their comfort level. This will kill a relationship before it ever gets started.

Why such an urgency to meet face-to-face? Here’s a few reasons for you.

• The first date is a blind date.

Regardless of how many emails and chats you exchange, it doesn’t take away from the fact that your first meeting is a blind date. Chemistry is a funny thing in relationships, and you can’t make it happen. You either will have it with someone or you won’t. That’s just the way it is. Why waste your time and effort getting to know someone online if there just isn’t any physical attraction?

• Don’t let your imagination dictate the relationship.

The longer you put off meeting someone, the more you will develop pre-conceived notions on what they look like and how they’ll react. The internet gives us all anonymity, and we are able to answer and respond at our own leisurely pace. Someone may be able to craft a brilliant answer to a question via an email, but in person they may not be able to carry on a conversation. These are things you’ll want to know before getting too involved with someone, because life is full of normal conversation.

• Keep the initial meeting low-key.

Go out for coffee or for a lunch date. You’ll know pretty quickly whether a person is someone you want to know a little better. Don’t invest a lot of time or money on a blind date just to find out that there’s no spark.

• Meet two or three times.

Once you’ve decided to meet someone face-to-face, you’ve officially left cyberspace and you’ve entered the real world. Follow the rules you would use in traditional dating, unless there is no spark. Go out with someone at least two or three times before calling it off.

To give you an example, close friends of mine (Tom

jim mcmenamin is the webmaster and creator of macsdatingsite.com, a blog dedicated to the various issues of online dating. for a limited time, jim is giving away two free ebooks, 10 tips to writing your online dating profile as well as 101 steps to a happy relationship, when you sign up for his newsletter.

Related posts:

  1. The Top Three Online Dating Tips Dating online isn’t quite like dating in person. But, as with any sort of dating, the ultimate goal is lifetime love. Online dating takes away a few of the elements of in-person dating. One is the blind date. This is the necessary result of any response to a newspaper personal ad. There may be a […]…
  2. Online Single Dating – What Are The Five Factors That … One needs to be careful while looking for love through online single dating websites. Here are a few safety tips which will definitely help you. Single dating can be tough if you are not into the club and bar scene. There is an alternative that can be fun and might even net you the person […]…
  3. Nigerian Scam And Online Dating As I’ve stated in various other articles, the internet really is a large place. Online dating is no exception, and it’s important to keep your personal banking information as secure as your personal identification. You need to use the utmost caution in protecting your security. I was surfing online and I ran into a really […]…
  4. Help! It’s My First Date With A New Guy, Should I Pony … With the demand for dating growing rapidly, a large number of online dating websites have been launched by various companies and organizations due to the sheer universality of the demand. These dating sites are usually 100% free for the users and provide people with the facility to meet with different people based on their interests’ […]…
  5. Free Online Dating – The Do’s And Don’ts … Everything has a set of rules that define it. So does free online dating. Here we give you a few pointers in this regard. Read on to find out more. Doing the rounds of online dating? Are you plagued by doubts and questions? Face it – free online dating is not your usual traditional dating […]…
  6. Free Online Dating Service – How Can You Be Successful There are some unstated rules when joining a free online dating service. It helps if you know what they are beforehand. We have listed them out here for your benefit. If you want to meet someone who you can date and possibly find love, try a free online dating service. This is the best way […]…
  7. Gay Online Dating – Why Fear Is Ruining Your Chances … Millions of gay singles are using gay online dating services worldwide. Of these millions of singles only a small percentage of singles have actually got out of their comfort zone, and really started to date online. There are a few barriers that singles fail to get over when they join an internet dating service. Getting […]…
  8. Mistakes Men Make On The First Date The number one mistake made by men on the first date is trying to buy love. The first date is not a marriage proposal; it’s merely an opportunity to measure compatibility. If it doesn’t work out, you will have spent all that cash on a fancy restaurant and red roses for nothing. Unfortunately, the IRS […]…
  9. Bristol Bath Dating: Your Portal For Efffective Online … Dating has become a cyber event. In addition, as the online dating population becomes bigger, sites with particular demographics are becoming more popular as a way to narrow the pool of potential dating matches. Bristol dating site is an example which you can register online. Remember however, dating is not running a marathon; it is […]…
  10. Free Online Dating – Five Useful Tips To Success … In this article we have listed out five sure shot tips for dating success on a free online dating site. So read on and incorporate these tips to taste real success even if you join one free site today here. Do you want to be successful in your online dating experiences? Well, for starters it […]…

296 total views, 1 so far today

  


Listed: May 7, 2008 12:11 pm