Welcome, visitor! [ Register | Loginrss

Marriage is About a Whole Picture


The family and its honour held the highest place and the marriages of both the boys and the girls were fixed by the elders of the family according to the status of the family. There was no question of the youngsters giving their views and quite often marriages were fixed even before the children reached their teens.

My mother, who was fortunate enough to be born in a rich family in the capital of India, could be educated till class 8th. Her parents were kind and intelligent and all the girls of the family too were sent to
schools along with the boys. Of course there were separate schools for girls and while traveling to school the cart carrying the girls was well covered so no one would get a glimpse of them.

But as per the custom my mother’s marriage was fixed in her childhood and she was not able to study further as the in-laws decided that the marriage should be performed now. She was extremely intelligent, a
gold medalist and the English ladies, who were the teachers at her school all felt very sorry that she had to leave her studies.

Relating all this about my mother because it’s important to tell how the attitude to marriage was in those days. A girl in India if put under such circumstances today would be a very frustrated person, but my mother had that bringing up that she took to her duty of getting married very calmly and joyously. She left the bigger city Delhi and moved to my fathers city of Dholpur, where she spent the next 25 years of her life.

She brought us all eleven brothers and sisters in this world and gave us so much love and care that we are all happily settled in our lives. We never saw her frustrated and perhaps that is the reason we also learnt to accept what comes. The french song Que-sere sera – whatever will be, will be, always reminds me of her smiling face.

Drifting from the topic, but mothers are mothers and when they are gone, they become the most treasured memory one can have. To come back to the marriage and dating scenario, according to the Hindu way of life marriage is a duty for everyone and the time to be spend being fully involved in the pleasures and pains of the mundane living is from the age of 25 years to 50 years.

This is the second stage of life which has four stages to be passed through wherin we do all the needful for this world and the next world too. This attitude to marriage has one very major difference from the western concept.

Here marriage is:

1. Not for your own or the individuals happiness alone, but a reason for celebration for all the members who are joined by love and affection.

2. It is not the be all and end all in life, but a part of our journey through life.

3. The expectations are limited and the desire to settle and be happy and let others be happy is strong.

4.marriage is sacred ,a pious knot tied between two individuals for procreation and the keeping of family name and prestige.

I am reminded of the novel Pride and Prejudice by Jane Austin and cannot but see that in the times which she has depicted marriages were very much the concern of the families in those societies too. So essentially east or west marriages were to fulfill some purpose which seems to be getting lost in the me and mine pursuit of mundane pleasures alone.

Appreciate the factor of compatibility of partners which is much discussed to day, also the factor of equality amongst partners, which is also fair, but only to the extent that we do not forget that nature has made some basic differences which can never be removed, and hence need to be respected.

To conclude would only like to say that this is one topic which affects each life deeply and so It is my sincere wish that the partners to be give the maximum thought to the new life that they may bring into this world and take great care to create a happy,congenial environment.

for more related articles and views visit jetfly marriage

Related posts:

  1. Russian women marriage-Single Russian women dating single … Russian women and Ukrainian brides are looking for serious men for marriage. Dating services for men seeking beautiful Russian women and Ukrainian girls. About Russian women,girls. Single Russian women,brides,wife,wifes,bride. Marriage,dating agencies Dating sites Ukraine woman,girls,bride,wife,brides…
  2. Remembering That Day Will Help Your Marriage…. Marriage is tough. There is no way around that. Marriage is worth it. There are a few reminders that will help us remember why. The wedding day is one of the most significant days if not the most significant day of a married couple’s life. It is the start of something special, it is the […]…
  3. The ABCs to a Successful Marriage Acceptance is the first core value. It’s absolutely vital that both partners accept each other the way they are. I have learned to celebrate both my husband’s strengths and his weaknesses, but it didn’t happen overnight. He (we’ll call him Sam) can be a pretty flighty guy. He loses car keys, receipts, and cell phones […]…
  4. Meet dominican women for marriage DominicanCupid is a dating and personals site especially for dominican single girls seeking love, dating, chat or friendship. If you like the beautiful latin girls from the dominican republic and would like to browse thousands of single dominican girls for free, you should have a look at this great dating site. Dominican women are known […]…
  5. Help Me Save My Marriage and Stop My Divorce How can I save my marriage when the odds are against me? More than 2 out of every 3 serious relationships end in a break up. So many in fact that it makes you wonder whether we were meant to be together at all. Despite the statistics most of us want nothing more than to […]…
  6. Dating beautiful russian women russian girls brides marriage Beautiful Russian women, Russian brides and Russian girls seeking men for dating and marriage…
  7. Beautiful Russian Women Marriage Agency.Single Russian … Beautiful Russian Women Marriage Agency.Single Russian Brides.Russian Ladies.Ryerose Marriage Agency.Single Russian Women Dating.Russian woman bride…
  8. Your Marriage, Love, And The Bible A quick search on the internet will bring you to the following definition of marriage. “A marriage is an interpersonal relationship with governmental, social or religious recognition, usually intimate and sexual, and often created as a contract” Frankly this definition just does not do it for me. I did not marry my wife for social […]…
  9. How To Win Back Your Man: 4 Simple Tips To Save A Marriage Avoid break ups by learning how to keep a man happy in a relationship Sooner or later even the closest, loving and committed relationship can become stale and lifeless. Eventually you will go through rough patches where being together seems to be just too much trouble and thoughts of divorce start to creep in. This […]…
  10. Choosing a Marriage Retreat Options Marriage retreats are a great way to enhance your marriage, get through a crisis, or get moving on long term problems. Most marriage retreats provide a way to step away from your daily routines and concentrate on your marriage. To do a retreat, you must first decide between the different retreat formats and options. What […]…

238 total views, 1 so far today

  


Listed: August 8, 2008 9:53 am