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The Indian marriage system and the values that we honor in staying as a family are ridiculed by western countries. For them marriage is a huge commitment. They feel it is loss of the freedom and independence. Where as we in India feel it is a divine union of two souls. Our tradition has always portrayed importance of marriage and even our Gods as happily married. The tradition of marriage is still depicted through the Hindu religious festivities wherein the marriages of the Gods hold an important event.

Uniting in marriage has never been a completion of individual and family in foreign countries, where children leave their parents when young, to live independently. There is no family bondage and they always feel insecure and hence are afraid of getting into marriage. Many feel insecure even by the thought of it. Whereas we have strong family bondage and we always want to expand our family tree generation after generation. Even if they get marry they are always ready to break the marriage because of any small issue. Where as we consider compromise as a part of marriage it self. Once married, we want to keep it forever. According to Hindu tradition they even want to extend and retain the marriage for next births. There is always a great social and family pressure in case of some issues between couple and they try to resolve that mutually.

Now living in relationship, a western way of getting into a trial or mock relationship is becoming popular in India. Two people decide to live together as man and wife without the official wedding. They can walk apart anytime they feel like or stay together and even have kids without any strings attached. These people do not understand the concept of marriage in the first place. This kind of relationship most of the time starts with physical attraction and once that attraction reduced they start finding other partner. This may work well for them as long as they are physically fit and attractive but as the age progress it becomes trap for them. They may not be able to find new attractive partner and getting married at that age also becomes difficult.

In our society marriages are based on trust and the couple vow to stay together as friend philosopher and guide for the rest of their lives. It is not a binding contract but a very divine and loving agreement. Whereas the living in relationship is based on the insecure feeling and the fear that their partner might one day walk away with all the money and wealth. Every moment this relationship will thrive on fear and anxiety as to when their partner will call it quits and walk off.

In Indian marriages the family and the friends stand witness to the holy matrimony. Couples realize that they are more responsible first to themselves as man and wife and next to their families and the society. It is a very decent and morale way to live a life. Living in relationship might end in marriages at times. Still how can the couple find out the pros and cons of a marriage when they aren’t truly married?

rajesh jain writes on behalf of matrimonyhouse.com, india’s fastest growing matrimonial website. matrimonyhouse.com enables users to create and search indian matrimony profile on the website. registering, searching, and contacting prospective groom and bride are absolutely free.

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