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How Unplanned Pregnancy May Affect Your Relationship


In even the cases where people are very careful unplanned pregnancy can and does occur. If you have recently found that you are pregnant and it was not planned you have a lot of decisions and discussions in your future. Before you do anything you really need to stop and take a deep breath. Then you need to consider how you feel about this unplanned pregnancy.

A lot of women are really excited about the pregnancy despite it being a surprise while other women feel scared and other women just want to find a way to resolve the situation. You may find that there is a mixture of emotions going on inside of you and you may even find that they change from minute to minute. Take a few hours or even a couple days to process the reality of the pregnancy to determine how you feel about it.

The next thing you need to do is tell your boyfriend or husband about the unplanned pregnancy. Expect that they will have as many mixed emotions as you did. Many women are hurt by the responses of the men in their life, but you have to remember that if this was not planned they will have a surprised reaction and the first reaction may not be good or it may not be what you had hoped it would be. Give him the same thing you gave yourself, which is the chance to take a deep breath and really contemplate the unplanned pregnancy and what it means to them, their life, and your relationship.

After you have both had a chance to process the information you need to come together and discuss how you feel about it and what you would like to do. You have a lot of options such as keeping the baby and raising it, giving it up for adoption, and even abortion. This is a personal decision that each person has to make for themselves and many people consider each option when they are thinking about an unplanned pregnancy.

Think about how this will change your relationship, too. Will this bring you closer together and push you further apart? Can your relationship withstand the stress of a pregnancy and the presence of a child? Would you get married if you are not already? Would you move into together if you aren’t already living together?

As you can see, an unplanned pregnancy can affect your relationship a lot. You have a lot of things to consider and hopefully it is something that you can do together. Remember to take things one at a time as an unplanned pregnancy can be very overwhelming for both of you.

Discuss the reality and how it will affect your relationship, what you are capable of, etc and go from there. An unplanned pregnancy doesn’t have to be a bad thing and you should always remember that there are a variety of options available to you.

rodrigo rehn is a relationships expert, linux systems administrator, web programmer, php developer and ceo of faceromance online dating for singles.

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