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First Steps To Getting Your Ex Back


The break up of a relationship can be very traumatic. In fact, it puts such emotional stress on some individuals that the impact can equal that of adjusting to a death of a loved one. The reason for that is obvious, the person is out of your life, at least in the way that you have become accustomed to and you may have to adjust your entire lifestyle to accommodate that. But the difference between the death of a loved one and losing one to a break up is also obvious. Break ups can be remedied. You can get your ex back in almost every case by following some simple steps.

I know I said the steps are simple but I also understand that during such a phase nothing seems easy. However, the steps outlined here are not difficult; in fact, you will probably think you should be doing more.

Step 1) This step is probably the most difficult because it is basically to do nothing. You should take the time needed to adjust to your changed situation. But I do suggest that you give this period a time limit. Usually three days to a week is sufficient. That is not to say that after that period you will not continue to feel sad, frustrated, or any of the other emotions that you are dealing with. It simply means that after that period you are going to move into the next adjustment phase.

Step 2) This is an involved phase that should continue even into step three. During step two you will take the time to work on yourself. This is not to suggest that there is something wrong with you but all of us can improve in someway. Perhaps you need to work on getting in better physical shape, or maybe you need to pay more attention to some aspect of your personal hygiene. The real point of step two is to get your focus on yourself and to make improvements at the same time.

Consider reading self-improvement books during this time. Another tip is to look for any hobbies or interests you want to be involved with and actively pursue them. Many times we put interests on hold as we are involved in a relationship. Use this time to get re-acquainted with any healthy hobbies or interests you have. This step is all about you giving to yourself. Take care of you. Remember that in order to love someone else appropriately you have to first love yourself.

Step 3) You are now ready to begin the actual contact with your ex. Begin very slowly. Even if your ex is ready for a full commitment to the relationship you should not jump into it. By now you will have considered your past relationship and you will probably have a good idea what the real problems were. In all likelihood you will find that the relationship was not as strong as it should have been.

Perhaps the friendship element was missing or maybe it was the essential element of respect. Do not overlook all the things that come under the categories of friendship and respect. Honesty is essential.

The real cause of the failure of the relationship will have to be determined by you and your ex. If you are truly committed to making this relationship work then you will need to do things a little differently this time around. Begin by building a strong foundation of solid friendship. You already have the love but love usually will not work if the friendship and respect is not added in.

It really is true that almost every relationship can be re-built. You can get your ex back using simple steps. The key is learning how to go about it.

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