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Dating Gone Bad


Every once in awhile it happens to the best of us.

You are looking forward to your first date with an interesting, attractive woman and have high hopes for a great day and maybe even a new relationship. But somewhere along the way, it goes bad. It goes incredibly wrong so all you want to do is get out of the date and go home.

But here’s the thing, you don’t want to be a jerk. You want to be able to politely end the date. So just how do you do that. Before we talk about that, let’s just quickly backtrack for a minute. As my grandmother says, the best medicine is prevention.

With that said, the first thing you need to do is take pains to ensure that you are going to spend time with someone you think you might be compatible with. Not just a pretty face or the first girl who agrees to hang out with you.

So many men are concerned just about getting a date that they don’t do some of the upfront, legwork to make it a success. Don’t be desperate. What you need to do is not look at getting a phone number or going on a date as the ultimate goal. The true and fulfilling goal is getting a phone number and going on a date with someone who guns your motor.

Once you know that there is definitely some potential but things are still going south, there are two things you can do.

First, you can say to her, in all honesty: “I had high hopes for this date, but for some reason we just aren’t clicking right now. I don’t know if it’s the barometric pressure (saying this to be funny) or if we just both woke up on the wrong side of the bed, but let’s cut this short and try it again. Maybe next week we can get together for coffee and see how it goes. What do you think?”

The key is, if you truly do think there is potential and that another time might work, see what she says back. If a few days pass and you don’t even think about her again, then I wouldn’t waste my time. However, if she is on your mind, it won’t hurt to leave a message, email, or text, saying, “Sorry that didn’t work on Monday, but I really would like to give it another try.”

The other option you have is to say, in all honesty, again something like this: “I’m sorry I just don’t think this is working. You are a great gal and all but something just isn’t clicking. I don’t want to waste your time when I know there is someone out there who is missing out on you.”

The key to both of these interactions is the honesty. You can’t control whether you are attracted to someone or whether you like them or even get along, but you can control how you handle such a situation. It’s just basic decency and that good karma will come back to you.

Bill has been a pua for the last 5 years in NYC and can teach you the skills you need to be one, as well, including how to text a girl. The original article can be found here: Dating Gone Bad.

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