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Avoiding the Dreaded Friend Zone


Time and time again I hear from men who are beside themselves because they have met this amazing woman and somehow, without even realizing it, ended up in the dreaded “friend zone.”

The question that all these men have for me is an obvious one: “What do I do now? How do I get out of the friend zone?”

And I never have anything but bad news for them. The odds of getting out of the friend zone once you have been firmly placed there are zero and none.

In fact, the only way a guy gets out of the friend zone is if he was mistaken in thinking he was ever there in the first place. In other words, the girl really was attracted to him, but was worried about letting him no, so she “pretended” they were just friends.

Because it is nearly impossible to get out of the friend zone once you are there and because ending up in that area can be a slippery slope, let’s focus on how you can prevent yourself from ending up there in the first place.

Best Ways to Avoid the Dreaded Friend Zone Tip #1

1. From the very first second you meet, you need to be sending a vibe to her that shows you appreciate that she is a woman and you are attracted to her. The beauty of doing this is that more often than not, the subtle message is more effective than an overt one. What I mean is that just by walking up to a girl and thinking in your head, “You are so hot, I want to get busy with you” will convey this message to her. Have you ever watched a movie where the male lead gives the female a “look” and she actually blushes from the overt sexuality of it? That’s what you need to do. You need to practice saying it in your head and giving your mirror a look that is sexy and not creepy.

Best Ways to Avoid the Dreaded Friend Zone Tip #2

2. Escalate the attraction level and tension increasingly each time you see one another. If you do set up a second meeting, no matter how casual that get together might be, you need to make sure you go in for a kiss. Don’t be shy. Women expect no less. If you don’t, she will wonder and not in a good way. Otherwise, if you neglect this move (even if she brushes you off initially), you will be in danger of ending up in the friend zone.

Best Ways to Avoid the Dreaded Friend Zone Tip #3

3. Use teasing to express your interest in her as more than a friend. You can learn how to tease in a nonthreatening playful way that shows you are a man and she is a woman and it is natural for there to be an attraction between you. For instance, you might say something such as “Do you want to dance with me? Be careful, most women find my moves irresistible and end up taking off their clothes before the song is over.”

Say it with a wink and smile. Now, notice you are not being suggestive to her in particular, but you are lumping her in with other women who are attracted to you in a physical way.

Bill has been at PUA Forum for the last 7 years in NYC and can teach you the skills you need to be one, as well, including how to talk to a girl. The original article can be found here: Avoiding the Dreaded Friend Zone.

Bill Preston has been studying personal development and dating advice for the past 7 years and is a guest instructor at the top Pick Up Artist Boot camp in NYC. He loves sharing his experience and expertise with other men looking to improve their lives. Find out more at http://www.puaforums.com

Bill has been at PUA Forum for the last 7 years in NYC and can teach you the skills you need to be one, as well, including how to talk to a girl. The original article can be found here: Avoiding the Dreaded Friend Zone.

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