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6 Tips You Can Use Now To Get Your Ex Back


First things first, if you are recently broken up (meaning within the past few hours) let the situation breathe for a day or two. Intimate emotions are some of the most intense emotions known to man, and sometimes everyone just needs to calm down for a moment, so rational thinking can come back into play. Get your head together first, then make your moves.

1 -Keep the situation between the two of you- Time after time people make the mistake of running to their friends and/or family about their relationship issues, not realizing that this is liable to create more of a problem. So keep it between you and your lover. The last thing you want to do is have everyone elses energy disrupting the flow of the love in your relationship, especially when things are shaky.

2 -Acceptance- When a break up occurs, you can either do one of two things, accept it or not. Usually when someone gets broken up with, they do not want to accept it and start begging and pleading for them to stay together and this is the wrong approach. Fully accept the situation for what it is first, then move on to your next options.

3 -Find the love- Once you have accepted the situation for what it is, ask yourself is the love still there. Where did the love take a wrong turn?

Think about your answers to these questions very thoroughly, because in many situations the core problem is simple, just difficult to find and rectify. Once you have the answers, think about what should have been done to fix the problem beforehand (this is vital to the continuance of your relationship.)

4 -Recognize the needs- Once you have came to the realization that there is still love in your relationship and it is worth your time to rekindle the flame you shared, take a moment to think about what your lover needs.

Have you properly catered to their needs, and are you capable of doing so? Has your lover catered to your needs, and are they capable of doing so? This is important to your longevity.

5 -Clean slate- After you have realized the core problems in your relationship and recognize what both of your needs are, now is the time to opt for a clean slate. If you and your lover were friends (which all lovers should be friends as well as lovers), opening the lines of civil communication should not be too hard.

Once you are talking, speak about your core problems and what should have been done. Elaborate on your understanding of what the both of you need from each other, then entertain the idea of building on a clean slate.

When you have them thinking about the notion of clean slate, the next step is to remain calm, patient, and attentive. This is the time to lessen the intensity of the conversation, if there is any.

6 -Apologies- Do not over apologize! Sometimes too much apologizing can make you look guiltier than what you may even be. Take responsibility for your actions, but not for those of your lover.

If you follow these tips correctly, you should be well on your way out of the dog house, even if you did deserve to be there. Remember to pay attention to your and your lovers actions and reactions within your relationship, and keep the communication clear.

Communication is the key to a healthy relationship. So listen, and be mindful to speak to your lover, not at them. Good luck!

h. sabur is a seasoned internet marketer who studies monogamy, polygamy, relationships, and promiscuity. click here for more info bringing your ex lover back into your life.

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